IMPORTANT TIPS TO SUSTAIN A RELATIONSHIP

I believe no one enters into a relationship to be hurt or heartbroken. We all want a relationship that is filled with love and happiness and that would end in marriage. But as much as we desire this, we must also be determined to make it work, not just by wishing but by working it out. Here are some tips we can practice in our relationship to give us the bliss we desire and make it the admiration of many:
(1) Know God: God is love. When we find God, we find love. Only him can place our love in the heart of another and another's love in our heart. There is nothing we can do well on our own without the help of God. So I'll advise that we seek and love God first Matt 6:33, then, our relationship with man can be filled with love.
(2)Have effective communication: Make out time to talk to your partner. Communicate. Talk about your feelings, fears, beliefs, your daily activities, what you like and admire in yourselves. Always speak your mind. Your partner can't be a mind reader. Do not sulk or keep to an issue expecting your partner to read your mind or come forth begging you, he or she may be pissed off or angry too. Talking and listening to your partner go a long way in the success of any relationship.
(3) Be positive about conflict: Do not see conflict or misunderstanding the wrong way. Disagreements should occur at appreciable intervals, and when they happen, they should be seen as opportunities to have a deeper bond. My father in the LORD would say,"challenges should not be feared or run away from as they take us to our next levels."
Take caution when you are angry with your partner. Do not act or speak when you are angry. Two wrongs don't make a right, take time to cool off and say something nice. Please, correct with love.
(4)Avoid referring to the past: Every human being has an aspect of his or her past that is undesirable and if your partner has shared his or hers with you, this is an act of love and trust. It will not do well to a relationship to revisit such incidents or keep referring to past mistakes or discussing it with other people. If you can't leave the past alone, you may not be able to love your partner unconditionally.
(5) Giving and care should be reciprocal: Many times I've heard ladies say,"men should show care and do the giving." But I disagree! It should be a mutual responsibility so that no one will feel used. Be in your relationship to give and not just to receive. The bible speaking in Acts 20:35 says, "it is more blessed to give than to receive." It is not how big or expensive your gift is but the motive behind giving it. God so loved the world that he gave Jesus, thus, you can't love without giving. Giving builds up affection and shows that the other person cares. Show each other care by regular phone calls, unexpected text messages, being interested in your partner's family etc.
Bottom line: There is power in forgiveness. Forgive each other's wrongs as many times as possible and do not compare your relationship to another. What works in relationship A, may not work in relationship B, and may not work in relationship C. Be contented in your relationship and be determined to make it work. Make the Holy Spirit your friend, he leads well. Premarital sex is dangerous and kills relationships fast, it's not easy but be resolute about it. Lastly, pray. Only God can keep your relationship.


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